I am now coming into a phase of my personal life that I ponder what was actually done or not done with my life in total.
I have been through the first three stages of life itself and now into the fourth...
The first stage is the beginning of life of course, and being conceived, grow in a liquid environment within my mothers womb and come forth as a new human being into a world of so many variables and uncertainties.
An infant who is totally dependent on their parents for everything.. food, cleanliness, clothing, and protection and nurturing and the very beginning of life's lessons that set them on the road of becoming a human being in this school house of learning in the universe.
As we grow stronger and bigger in stature, cutting our teeth, taking our first steps upright from being a rug-rat to waddeling and holding onto tables and chairs, to gaining confidence to walk and talk on our own! Learning the basics of life, such as what can and cannot be done.
As we continue to develop in every way, we make it through our youth to the teen years.. giving our parents headaches and heartaches from all four directions! physically and spiritually stretching and extending our bodies and our wills and invisible wings so to speak. Crossing every line we can push, and see how far our parents will allow the invisible boundaries to expand and be tolerated.. until the rubber band snaps to a halt of absolutely and irreversibly a big fat NO!
Then the next stage comes around what in times has been called: "The age of accountability" this is usually the age around 12-13 where one should know by then what is right and what is wrong. And the "Child" becomes a partial semi-adult in many cultures and beliefs of the world. With this stage of life now, there are the first adult type of responsibilities that will shape the young adult for the next stage...
This stage is the third stage in the circle of life.. Adulthood.
Who can really say anymore where that line is that we cross for this stage. As few as three generations back now, parents forgot to do their jobs and failed to teach these children what to teach these generations up to present day.. the chain has been broken and was thrown out the window! and the law has deemed to reinforce the laziness of irresponsibility of discipline of that parent to their children.
Yes, the original law was to help protect an abused child of abusive parents, grandparents and relatives who went by the wayside in how to treat and nurture that child. But even the good that was "Thought" to stop a wrong, only produced a bigger wrong. No discipline in a child's young and mold-able life of not knowing there are lines in life not to cross or be abused instead of the child itself. Now it has produced a chain reaction of domino effect of new generations with a no-care attitude, constant chip on the shoulder and fly by the seat of their pants unrealistic view of the world they live in. No consideration of anything, no compassion, and a me me me attitude.
We can keep praying that the law will change all over and give the right to discipline a child in the right manner again before it is too late, but the parents has to be taught now BEFORE the child of that parent..
My generation knew with the love and nurturing right and wrong, and where the lines where of what to do and not do. We were taught all the things that a complete human being needed to be just that..
There is always good and bad in every aspect of life, and we knew with the correct knowledge that was given us, we had a defined choice and the consequences that went with that choice. Parents and the children of those parents for three generations going into a fourth soon, do not or even care.
It did use to be grand parents and great grandparents to help out in this teaching department.. now that has faded to a quote to them to "Butt out! we don't need you! just give me your monies and all you have and shut the hell up!"
Well, as I said earlier in this lesson, I am now in my fourth stage of the circle.. I am in my Elder hood and some day my turn to cross over into the realm from where I began in spirit. The circle made complete and a new spirit is born in my place.
I am old and silver-gray. I have looked back at all three of the stages before and I found I have had a full and colourful life in more ways than one.
But I really look at the times I thought as a youth as my parents and grandparents and relatives were at times very mean and hateful in their strictness and discipline.. And they were not fair on so many aspects in my life..
Only to realize I was very loved indeed and was well nurtured and cared for and did not turn out too bad!
The molding of my nature and attitude was a good thing, and if I had not have had that training I see I could have very well turned down the wrong paths and roads of my life.
Sure I made wrong decisions and I did travel so rough and rocky paths, but I was taught how to handle those and much more! Which made the good things even better!
Now, I try to help others when I can, teach what I was taught and pass on the wisdom of my youth and now my old age. I can only pray some of those good seeds will be remembered and passed on once again to the future generations to come.
Amen and Ah-Ho!
ShaunaSay WhiteFeather Gardner
